This post is taken from a section of my newsletter entitled "Things I Have Learned From My Little Girl" that I wrote back when Rachel was three years old. I plan for this and similar posts to eventually be published in an ebook format. Last week, I posted links to a number of other similar posts in the series.If you missed them last week, you can find those links here.
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"Don't Talk To Me!"
Don’t you just love it when your little one
gets sassy and talks back to you?
NOT! Rachel has picked up a bad
habit from a video she saw where one of the characters said to another in a
mean voice, “Be quiet! Don’t talk to me!”
Rachel latched onto that phrase, and has been using it on me…mostly when
I am telling her to do something she doesn’t want to do. (Needless
to say, this particular video has been blacklisted in our home.)
I tried various ways to bring this under control, including actually going silent after she said this, refusing to talk even when she tried to interact with me. I don’t do this with an angry attitude – just with a sad face. That finally got a response. When she made the connection between what she said and my silence, she would quickly, and kind of flippantly, say she was sorry.
The trouble is, in just a little
while, she would say it again. She was
only sorry she was experiencing the consequences of her disrespect, but it
didn’t touch her heart. Not really.
I’ve had to take things a bit farther. A simple “I’m sorry, Mommy,” doesn’t loosen
my tongue now. I wait longer, until she
has felt at a heart level what it means to have Mommy not talk to her.
Then, when I can see she is truly sorry, I
gladly hold her, reassure her of my love, and we talk about how important it is
to speak respectfully. Since I started
using this strategy, I have heard Rachel catch herself a couple times when she
started to let the words slip. It seems
something is getting through.
Rachel is not alone in picking up sinful
habits and thinking simply saying the words “I’m sorry” will make everything
right.
It is true that God is always
ready and willing to forgive someone who is truly repentant. But when we say “I’m sorry” to Him again and
again for the same thing, sometimes our loving Heavenly Father has to take
things up a notch, so to speak, and let us really feel the consequences of our
actions before we truly desire to leave the sinful thing behind.
The wonderful thing is, He does this not
because He enjoys punishing His children, but because He wants the best for us,
even as I want the best for Rachel. He
wants to see us grow in godly character, and will do even the hard things to help
us grow.
And thankfully, He is always
ready and longing to take His repentant child in His arms to enjoy restored
relationship once again.
From newsletter 20081016
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If
you are a parent of young children, does this bring any thoughts to
mind about the use of logical consequences as you guide and teach your
young ones? How might you apply this principle in a way you may not have
thought of before?
Now bring it into the adult world. Has God ever had to "take things up a notch" with you to bring you to a point of true repentance? Was the experience pleasant and welcome? Was it worth it in the end? Why?
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