Yesterday was a school holiday. I took Rachel to a local
swimming pool that had a couple water slides to make things fun. Of course,
since a swimming pool is much more fun when shared, we invited her best friend
Anggi (AHNG-gee) to go along. Rachel
had big plans for a couple hours of fun at the pool.
Unfortunately, when we got to the pool, the girls met up
with Kredita (kre-DEE-tah) another
friend from school. Anggi is a closer friend to Kredita than Rachel is. As
Anggi and Kredita also share similar bravery levels when it comes to water
slides, the two of them stuck together like glue, and Rachel was left as the odd girl out.
She could have decided to join the other two girls in their play,
venturing out once in a while to try one of the bigger slides on her own, and
then coming back to join her friends. She eventually did do this, but she spent
a great deal of time bemoaning the fact that Anggi wasn’t playing just with
her.
That “left-out” feeling
is partially due to the reality that at age seven, kids have probably not
yet caught on to the fact that you can be friends with more than one person at
one time. On the other hand, a comment from Rachel helps me see her situation…and
my life…from a different perspective.
Rachel came to me in the pool with her complaint. It went
something like this. “I had plans for Anggi and me to play, and
now Kredita is here and nothing is working.”
Aren’t we sometimes like that when unexpected things happen
in our lives? I know I am. We have our own ideas of how things are going to
happen in our lives.
- Where we will live
- What kind of a job we will have
- Who or when we will marry
- How many children we will have and when
- How we will have warm relationships with grown children all living nearby
- What goal or hobby we want to develop
- Where and in what circumstances we will eventually retire
- And the list goes on...
Then something happens. God
allows something to enter our lives that we never expected. A health crisis.
Loss of employment. Difficult relationships. Loss of a loved one. Grown children led to places far away.
In the Bible, many unexpected
things happened to Joseph after being sold into slavery by his brothers. Pharaoh’s
soldiers chased the newly freed Hebrew slaves to the banks of the Red Sea. Mary
was no doubt looking forward to a normal marriage to her fiancée, Joseph. Mary
and Martha experienced the loss of their beloved brother Lazarus. The early
church experienced persecution.
Or perhaps God doesn’t allow something to happen that
we thought would happen. Our chosen career opportunity does not open up to us. The dreamed-of spouse
does not come along. The longed-for
child is not yet conceived. Time
slips away, and for one reason or another, the hoped-for retirement scenario
does not appear to be a possibility.
Abraham and Sarah waited decades
for a child. So did Zechariah and Elizabeth. Paul longed for his thorn in the flesh, whatever that was,
to be removed.
Each of our experiences are
different. When the unexpected happens, or the hoped-for does not materialize,
we could spend our time complaining about how our plans are not working. How nothing is going the way we thought it
would. We could spend our lives lamenting our losses or grieving for what never
happened.
Don’t get me wrong. There is a
time for grieving over those lost hopes and dreams. Perhaps we actually need to
do that so we can move on. But it is important that we do not live there.
Eventually, we need to let go of
the plans that we made for our lives. We can then be free to embrace the new direction
that God gives us. This letting go and embracing the new is so important.
Otherwise, we spend our lives
like my Rachel, wandering around the swimming pool alone. We could spend our
lives lamenting the fact that our plans
are not working.
We can choose a different way.
Let’s not miss out on the world of possibilities that could be ours if we only
embrace the new and the different that God has for us.
“For My thoughts
are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the Lord.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways
And My thoughts than your thoughts.
Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the Lord.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways
And My thoughts than your thoughts.
Isaiah
55:8-9
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